June 28, 2010
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Forever?
I read a beautiful story in the paper yesterday about a couple who had been together since 1945 (how many relationships can you think of off the top of your head that have lasted 65+ years???). Both are in their latter 80s now and were finally able to get married in DC as the city council recently decided to allow gay marriage (finally!).
With the way so many relationships seem to go these days, 65 years together with one person seems endless, vast, a real forever. It makes me happy just thinking that there are couples out there who really do have the forever thing seemingly down pat.
We hear way too much about relationships ending and divorces that every time a story like this comes along, it gives me a lot of hope and encouragement that the Architect and I may just be able to attain the same. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.
I like the sound of forever…
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Do you know the band Cake? They remade an old song, “Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps.” Thanks to you, that song will be in my head all day. Here’s to you and the Architect!
I like the sound of forever too. I just wish more people could have happily ever afters like the couple you talk about. I wish it for you.
My grandparents celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary just a few short months before my grandfather passed away. Watching the two of them hand in hand after all those years was the most beautiful sight to behold. I wish you and your love the same happiness.
my parents will be celebrating their 62nd wedding anniversary this September.
It is hopeful. I feel like often people of that generation stuck to it. If there were rough times they just stuck it out until things got better. Many people don’t have that kind of stick to it-ness now. It’s believing and doing and not looking at divorce as an option. Good luck to you in your relationship. peace always
Yes. Forever, would be wonderful.
my aunt and uncle were married in ’42. I’ll be visiting them in a week or so as they can’t travel to the wedding. Companion talked to aunt today… she taught me how to knit…funniest story – when uncle was in WWII, one of the letters he wrote to her was on a roll of TP as there was no other paper available :
I hear ya. My paternal grandparents got married when my grandmother was 17 and he a few years older, and they were married for fifty-some years when my grandpa died. Practically all of their lives.
I like this.
Apparently it does indeed happen.
THATS THEKIND OF LOVE WE ALL PRAY FOR. (i’ll speak for myself)
May your soon to be marriage be just as successful!
You & the Architect can attain it… a lot of friendship, humor, respect and a bit of patience. I believe you already have that.
^_^
Forever is one of my favorite adverbs.
that’s awesome. it’s even more crazy they stayed together because they weren’t married… didn’t have that legal obligation. i can only hope to figure out the forever thing someday.
It happens. I know of a bunch of people who stayed together that long or longer, till the end of one life anyways. They make it look so easy, too.
awwll that is sweet and I dont think I know anyone who has been together 65 + years
maybe you will get forever
my grandparents just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary a few years back. It was quite awesome..I think they walked along the hall in the church; just like they were getting married once again. They exchanged rings too. haha.
@mammaquiet - wow
I’ll share a bit more about this story in the coming weeks (after the family reunion in KC this month) but my maternal grandparents, who are celebrating their 90th birthdays this year, also celebrated their 67th anniversary in March. My grandfather’s parents also made it that far. Let’s hope I have both those long-life genes and success in marriage!
How wonderful and I like the word “forever ” too.
Appreciated you relating this story, maybe perhaps since it was an LGBT subject. Truly.
But there might be other ways to view loving relationships.
63 horrific years, my parents have taunted and brutalized each other — quite literally. Did the same to their children. Makes me think they were made for each other, or deserve each other. It ain’t all roses, but personally I prefer roses.
From his nursing home, in a threatening tone and with an elevated volume, my father left a phone message yesterday to her: “what the fuck! I’d like to know, god damn it, if you’re coming over here today to see me. I’ll kick your ass if you don’t, you fuckin’ worthless bitch.” He’s such a fraud. Both of them are. He wept at their 50th wedding anniversary ceremony. Somehow their vocabulary and sentence structure got inverted and convoluted.
“From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow together, and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.”
@BoureeMusique - I love that song. I love Cake in general
@WakeUpLaughing - I think the world would be a better place that way…
@gwacemom@momaroo - I love hearing about those couples. My grandparents would have been married 50 years this year. I really wish my grandma were still around (she passed away 3 years ago).
@mammaquiet - Wow! Congratulations to them!
@peacenow - Thank you and yes, I agree that many people don’t have the stick-to-it-ness to make it this time around. Marriage is sometimes seen as temporary and expendable. It makes me sad!
@ZSA_MD - Indeed!
@travelerblue - Writing on TP? Now that is true love
@epiginoskete - It’s a beautiful thought to be able to spend a lifetime with someone that you deeply, deeply care about.
@SassWithClass -
@SoapAndShampoo - It definitely gives me hope!
@Gifty_AS_iAM - You are speaking for me as well
@Roadlesstaken - Fingers crossed!
@endlesssummer128 - I think we are off to a pretty good start
@morado23 - :)
@TutelageOfTheMundane - It’s a pretty good word!
@Dreams_of_a_Cowgirl - It is amazing! Marriage is a legal institution but love is the real thing.
@dirtbubble - They do make it look easy. My parents are like that. They’ve been married for 26 years.
@samanthabecicka - I hope so! Thanks for stopping by!
@missredboots - That makes me smile
@Daniella_Aalyiah_Li - Indeed!
@christao408 - I hope that for you as well! That’s really amazing; congratulations to your grandparents
@styx_site - It’s a good one!
@epistemologically_challenged - I think that it’s important to point out that distinction. There can be very long, loving marriages and there can also be really horrible marriages. My great grandparents were married for almost 25 years and knew from almost the moment that they got married that they were not right for each other but believed that they should stay together for my grandfather (just a baby at the time). My grandfather ended up having kind of a crummy childhood because of it… It was sad.
@malikimran - Where is that quote from? I like it!
Forever has a nice ring to it….too many people just want instant gratification….can’t say it makes me feel better about my situation but…a small glimmer of hope is there i guess
Ah, that does sound beautiful. I’m always encouraged when I see long-lasting relationships like that.
Hopefully someday I’ll be at the start of my own ‘forever’…but that remains to be seen!
I noticed that the baby boomers tend to have a longer lasting marriage than the Gen X and Gen Y. Maybe it is a different mindset going into marriage and bailing ooout as soon as there is any sign of troubles.
Anyway, good luck to you and the architect. I am sure both of you will make it last forever.
@Iwalktheline03 - Keeping that hope alive is important. I think everyone has that chance at forever!
@ElusiveSoul - It really is encouraging. I hope you find your forever someday
@icepearlz - Thank you! And yes, I’ve noticed that there are a lot of people from older generations that do indeed stick it out and make it work a little better than younger generations. Times definitely have changed.
forever is sweet. I want forever too.